I know... Your boy is hitting or biting or scratching or grabbing or spitting or yelling or swearing or pushing or pulling or WHATever. And you’ve tried EVERYTHING. You started with asking him politely to stop. Then a little louder. And then you had to scream because it was the only way he would listen. And he did stop. You felt badly about having yelled, but it worked, so...well… What are you gonna do?
But then it happened again. And again. You turned to rewards thinking that it would encourage your boy to mellow out, use kind words, keep his hands to himself. I’m guessing he didn’t make it to the finish line… Or if he did, he took the prize and then went back to his regular old “inappropriate behavior” self.
What now? He can’t be hurting others! Certainly not physically. And not with words either. That’s it! As much as you didn’t want to have to punish him, there was just nothing left to try.
"TIME OUT! GO TO YOUR ROOM AND COME BACK WHEN YOU’RE READY TO BEHAVE LIKE A THREE-YEAR OLD (OR 10 YEAR OLD)!"
"IF YOU DO THAT ONE MORE TIME, YOU WILL LOSE YOUR SCREEN TIME FOR THE ENTIRE WEEK!"
"HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF HE KICKED YOU? YOU APOLOGIZE TO HIM RIGHT NOW OR THERE WILL BE NO MORE PLAY DATES! PERIOD!"
And after all that yelling, how’s his behavior?
And how are YOU feeling?
Now you’re beginning to wonder whether there might be something seriously wrong with your boy. If he’s like this now, what’s he going to be like when he gets to high school! It feels like he’s slipping away.
And your parenting confidence is, I’m guessing, somewhere down in the basement. With every step out into public comes anxiety. You’re sure everyone’s dreading your son’s arrival, and gossiping about what a crappy parent you must be to let your boy behave “that way.” And home isn’t much better. Sibling struggles. Little cooperation. Lack of respect. Criticism from family.
Listen. There is another way. A peaceful way that is effective and leaves you feeling proud of your parenting. It’s simpler than you can possibly imagine.
Join me inside Out With Aggression and let me teach you.
"Out with aggression!” is an online course designed to help you help your boy stop his aggressive behaviors and lift your parenting confidence. (I think I already said that somewhere, but I want to make sure you’re with me here because I mean business!)
It’s like me holding your hand and guiding you from where you are to where you long to be. It will help you put the peaceful back into your parenting… and your boy.
“Out With Aggression” includes:
• 5 modules of bite-sized videos that will inspire you to take action, one tiny step at a time
• Practical exercises that even a busy parent can find time for
• 2 amazing bonus modules
• Newly added bonuses on handling sibling struggles & cooperation (or lack there of ;)
• Printouts to remind you of key points
• Forever access to the email content of my 10-Day Reconnect, Parenting Boys Peacefully
• Immediate, lifetime 24/7 access (via username and password) to all modules & bonuses
• All downloadable content, so you can access the content wherever, whenever
• 30 day 100% money-back guarantee
AND THIS IS HUGE...
I'm throwing in 10, one-hour group coaching calls with me!... For 5 weeks, we will connect every Monday at 10:30 and every Friday at noon PST. LIVE!
I'm going to hang out with you all through January inside our own secret Facebook community.
If you're ready to go all in and devote January 2020 to doing what needs doing to stop your boy's aggression, then I'm ready to give you my all to help make that happen.
“I feel more knowledgeable about what my son is going through when he expresses angry words or has aggressive behaviour, and feel so much better equipped with how to handle these situations.”Happy Parent!
“It helped to change my perspective and to see my son in a different light. It also helped knowing that we aren't alone in the struggle.”Another happy parent!
“I am now finding the joy in parenting again and am no longer in constant damage control. Our family unit ”And another happy parent feeling so much better!
I want you to feel hopeful about your son’s ability to make good choices, solve conflicts peacefully, conquer his fears, and reach his full potential. I have lived in that place of worry and fear for my sons’ future, and it sucked! I made it my business to learn all I could about parenting, and to get the hell out of that hopeless place as quickly as possible. Please let me help you out too! Yes, I've written a book, coached loads of parents, and shared my knowledge on many a podcast and online summit, and in newspapers and magazines online and off. But I don’t have any super powers. I just discovered some simple tools that allow me to lose it less and move my boys beyond their less-than-stellar behaviors. And I felt so amazed by the process that I became a certified trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and began helping other parents do the same. I now know that my boys are just fine, and if I can spread the message that boys are good, and that it is our responsibility to learn how to support them well, life for boys (and with boys) will be sooo much better. This knowledge has empowered me to teach parents what’s really going on with our boys, and how to meet them where they are, hold high standards for them, and hold them close as they make their way through their struggles. I look around me at the men I meet and I don’t see a lot of joy. Many seem to have fallen into jobs/careers/roles that others expected of them- either their families or cultures. Most do not make spending time with their families a priority – either because they’re carrying huge financial burdens, or they don’t know how to play, be still, be close, relax. Many are without networks of close friends, are lonely and unhappy, and use alcohol, drugs or porn to numb the pain, rather than express their feelings fully. I don’t want this future for my boys or yours. I read the newspaper and it’s full of men perpetuating all sorts of violence. I believe we can do better for our boys. That does not have to be their future. It's time to redefine masculinity and create real change in the lives of our boys, our families, and our world! The future holds much beauty and goodness! I hope you’ll join me on my journey towards more joy, play and laughter at home, and more peace in the world.
Step 1: Set Yourself Up for Success. This is where you’ll lay your foundation for seeing the changes you desire with your boy and with yourself.
Step 2: Your Connection Plan. In this module, you’ll get in touch with your dreams for your boy’s behavior and create a plan of action.
Step 3: Becoming a Detective. Uncover the things you already know to do for your boy - it’s probably a lot more than you think! No one knows your son like you do, and we’re going to put that wisdom to work!
Step 4: Set Limits Like a SuperHero. Learn to LOVE setting limits for your boy and their role in minimizing his aggressive upsets.
Step 5: Play Like Your Life Depended on It. You’ll learn the importance of using play - not only to connect deeper with your boy, but to effectively respond to his aggression as well.
Forever access to the email content of my 10-Day Reconnect, Parenting Boys Peacefully
If you haven't yet participated in my Reconnect, this 10-day practice will get you some quick behavior wins. And if you've already done it, now you have it packaged with a bow to return to whenever your boy is needing an infusion of connection.
10 one-hour group coaching calls with me!
For 5 weeks, we will connect every Monday at 10:30 and every Friday at noon PST. LIVE! This is where we learn to care deeply for ourselves and one another. And get real-time coaching.
Private Facebook Community
Through the end of January, this will be your cozy space to share your wins - and your flops, ask your questions, and feel what it's like to parent your sweet boy in the cradle of a community without shame, criticism or blame. #onlylove
Bonus module: Interviews with great thinkers
Get inside the brains of top experts on brain science, play, education & connection.
Bonus module: Getting your partner on board
Listen to four unique case studies, and learn how these parents found peace with their partner's (or ex's) parenting.
In this video, I give you perspectives to adopt and strategies to implement to support your children to develop loving sibling relationships.
- Are worried about your boy’s anger, his fears, his future
- Are done with punishing and bribing, but don’t know what else to try
- Want to stop yelling
- Love your boy to death, but are struggling to enjoy him
- Are on information overload, and just want someone to tell you what to do
- Appreciate theory, but really need practical solutions - like yesterday!
- Have let your own needs slide because all your energy is going towards damage control
- Are generally overwhelmed and not having much fun parenting
- Believe that change is possible, even though it might not feel that way
- Are committed to working hard to get the results you want
- Are willing to experiment with new strategies, even though some may be outside your comfort zone
- Are brave, forward thinking, and ready to smile and laugh again!
What ages is this appropriate for?
My focus here is on ages 2-10, but no child is too young or too old to benefit from what you’ll learn.
What if I have girls too?
Fabulous! Please practice these techniques with all your kids! Your family and the world will become more peaceful places.
What if my boy has special needs?
I created this course with a neurotypical child in mind, as this is where my expertise lies. Parents of children with special needs can benefit greatly from this course, but you may need to modify the practices as you deem fit.
What if my partner’s not on board?
Fine. Don’t worry about it for now. One of my bonus modules will boost your confidence about parenting from different pages.
How long will the course take to complete?
You will have 5 weekly modules to complete, but access forever. You may find you zoom through Module 1, but want to take 2 weeks on Module 2 before jumping into Module 3. Or the other way around. You decide what pace works for you. The information is all at your fingertips.
How quickly will I see results?
This really depends on you, your boy, and what's going on in your life right now. As with everything, the more you put in, the quicker you will benefit.
If you take my hand as I guide you through, step-by-step, you will likely see signs of change very quickly.
Please understand, though, that this course is a practice. I teach you specific strategies to use with your boys (and girls too, if you have them), with the intention of you adopting them as your default parenting tools. We’re in this parenting thing for the long haul. This is no sprint.
Can I access everything right away, or do I have to wait?
You will have immediate access to all modules. No waiting!
What if I purchase the course, and then decide it’s not for me?
Because I know my practice will get you results, I give you a 30-day 100% money back guarantee. No refunds after 30 days.
What if I have a question?
I'm here to answer!
Email me at email@example.com
“I feel I am now able to undertake the best job in the world with knowledge and confidence and not dread the day ahead.”This could be you!
“Being home (with my son) and enjoying it, feeling safe and cozy and connected, is priceless. I'm grateful I have found you!”I'm tearing up!
“(Tosha) delivers her assistance with a powerful combination of humour and caring that amounts to highly useful guidance. You won't find a smarter, more energetic parenting coach than Tosha Schore.”Now I'm blushing!