You’re really struggling.
Frustrated and impatient, letting yourself down each time you lose it with your little guy.
One of you asked, “How do I do this without burning out my own insides because the frustration is like a fire inside me?”
You’re working hard to raise your family, keep the household running, maintain your own identity, and the juggling act has worn you out. It feels like everything and everyone is getting short changed. This just isn’t the family life you imagined for yourself, and you feel like you’re to blame.
And what about your boy? Whom you love dearly. You're worried.
How do you parent him so that he grows into a respectful man who listens well? How do you protect him from the toxic messages of masculinity flooding the media outlets? How do you raise your son to be resilient in the face of life's promised hard times.
And in the short run, how do you get him to listen? To share? To sleep? To be kind?
WITHOUT LOSING IT YOURSELF AND FEELING LIKE CRAP AFTER.
I’m here to tell you that there’s lots you can do to stack the deck in their – and your – favor!
I know it doesn’t seem like it should be so hard, but the reality is that having kids changed your life in ways you couldn’t possibly have imagined, and there are very few societies that support parents well. Know of any?
Perhaps you’re struggling with:
• a son who is aggressive, fearful, or who has lots of big, loud feelings
• a son who simply doesn’t cooperate
• a son who takes up all the air time in the family (at the expense of his siblings)
• a son who’s struggling in the classroom
• bedtime and sleep issues (and, therefore, your own sleep deprivation)
• kids who “don’t like each other” or aren’t getting along
• a son who is shy or has lots of fears
Or maybe your challenges are:
• an identity crisis (Do you even remember who you were before kids?)
• your partner not being on the same parenting page (Honestly, that’s the truth for most of us.)
• not knowing when to set limits or how
• yelling (You’re doing way too much of it, and embarrassed by what the neighbors must think.)
• time-outs, star charts, and consequences (They’re not working and you hate giving them anyway, but you’re at wits end and just don’t know what else to do!)
You’re smart. You’re a hard worker. Where did things go wrong? How does everyone else keep it all together? (You know deep down they don’t, but that feeling can kill you, can’t it!)
If you’ve participated in my free 10-Day Reconnect, you’ve likely had some real wins... And then quietly settled back into old ways. Progress is slow.
How about we pick up the pace and propel your family forward? Shall we?
What if I told you that if you join us and commit to using our community support, your boy will thrive, you'll feel confident and proud of your parenting, and you will be able to focus your goals on some of those dreams you had before parenthood?
What if yelling was the occasional slip, rather than the norm?
What if your home was full of silliness and laughter?
What if you felt relaxed and happy with your boy, hopeful for his future?
What if for each parenting challenge you faced, several solutions popped into your head, and you actually had the where with all to implement them?
What if you knew what to do when your child refused to get dressed, insisted on a 25th bedtime story, demanded a third bowl of ice cream, hit his brother or sister, called you stupid, or refused to participate in his music class?
What if you felt held by a community of parents who NEVER judged you, and ALWAYS offered support?
These things are true for me, and I have created my Parenting Boys Peacefully membership academy so that all these things will be true for you too!
And I want you to feel hopeful about your son’s ability to make good choices, solve conflicts peacefully, conquer his fears, and reach his full potential.
I have lived in that place of worry and fear for my sons’ future, and it sucked! I made it my business to learn all I could about parenting, and to get the hell out of that hopeless place as quickly as possible.
Please let me help you out too!
Yes, I've written a book, coached loads of parents, and shared my knowledge on many a podcast and online summit, and in newspapers and magazines online and off. But I don’t have any super powers.
I just discovered some simple tools that allow me to lose it less & move my boys beyond their less-than-stellar behaviors. And I felt so amazed by the process that I became a certified trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and began helping other parents do the same.
I now know that my boys are just fine, and if I can spread the message that boys are good, and that it is our responsibility to learn how to support them well, life for boys (and with boys) will be sooo much better. This knowledge has empowered me to teach parents what’s really going on with our boys, and how to meet them where they are, hold high standards for them, and hold them close as they make their way through their struggles.
I look around me at the men I meet and I don’t see a lot of joy. Many seem to have fallen into jobs/careers/roles that others expected of them- either their families or cultures. Most do not make spending time with their families a priority – either because they’re carrying huge financial burdens, or they don’t know how to play, be still, be close, relax. Many are without networks of close friends, are lonely and unhappy, and use alcohol, drugs or porn to numb the pain, rather than express their feelings fully. I don’t want this future for my boys or yours.
I read the newspaper and it’s full of men perpetuating all sorts of violence. I believe we can do better for our boys. That does not have to be their future.
It's time to redefine masculinity and create real change in the lives of our boys, our families, and our world!
The future holds much beauty and goodness! I hope you’ll join me on this journey towards more joy, play and laughter at home, and more peace in the world.
What ages is this appropriate for?
My focus here is on ages 2-10, but no child is too young or too old to benefit from what you’ll learn.
What if I have girls too?
Fabulous! Please practice these techniques with all your kids! Your family and the world will become more peaceful places.
What if my boy has special needs?
Parents of children with special needs can benefit greatly from this community. One month we will focus in particular on children with special needs. You may need to modify the parenting strategies we use as you deem fit.
What if my partner’s not on board?
Fine. Don’t worry about it for now. If you are a man or have a partner looking to deepen his connection with you and your kids, you're welcomed here! I lead a separate weekly support call just for dads, every Wednesday morning from 9-10am PST!
Why do I have to commit for a year?
We will be building community, getting to know one another and our kids. Safety builds over time, and change takes time to create. A year gives us a full cycle of seasons, holidays, and rituals to explore together. If you're looking for one-on-one coaching, please consider my Personalized Parent Coaching Program.
How quickly will I see results?
This really depends on you, your boy, and what's going on in your life right now. As with everything, the more you put in, the quicker you will benefit.
My intention here is to move together at a steady pace towards a home life filled with laughter and ease.
We’re in this parenting thing for the long haul. This is no sprint.
What if I decide it’s not for me?
If you're not sure THE PLAYHOUSE is for you, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or message me on FB, and I'll help you decide. Once you commit, I ask that you stay with us for a whole year - and longer if you'd like!
What if I have a question?
I'm here to answer!
Email me at email@example.com, or message me on FB.
I feel more knowledgeable about what my son is going through when he expresses angry words or has aggressive behaviour, and feel so much better equipped with how to handle these situations.
It helped to change my perspective and to see my son in a different light. It also helped knowing that we aren't alone in the struggle.
I am now finding the joy in parenting again and am no longer in constant damage control. Our family unit is also much better for it.
I feel I am now able to undertake the best job in the world with knowledge and confidence and not dread the day ahead
Being home with (my son) and enjoying it, feeling safe and cozy and connected, is priceless. I'm grateful to have found you!
(Tosha) delivers her assistance with a powerful combination of humor and caring that amounts to highly useful guidance. You won't find a smarter, more energetic parenting coach than Tosha Schore.